How many Friends you got?
Posted by Unknown | Posted in How to | Posted on Saturday, August 27, 2011
Friendship is; an invincible bond, a divine occurrence, a die-hard relationship. That lost its integrity, its importance over time. The value of which got corrupted as erupted the complex times. The true meaning of which faded through the course of time as a more selfish era presented itself.
Back in the day friendship was more, more than even a blood relation. It was a bond bound by life and death. It was sacred. Nowadays its become a comedy. The definition of the term has mutated over ages. Today its interpreted as sharing time and a few laughs. I.E. Merely spending time together equals the modern friendship. Whatever happened to relying, confiding and trusting? Though a complete friendship involves all the 'fun stuff' too. Its not what forms the basis, the pillars of a true friendship. In fact its always the non-stuff that differentiates between the two. That puts the relation to a test.
Funny thing is most of us are either naive to the thought or unaware of it. We believe we have lots of friends. Plenty of BFFs. Quite a number of die-hard amigos. We take pride in the number of friendships we possess. And ofcorse why wouldn't we? We like knowing we have a good influence on a great number of people, we like knowing we have like-minded individuals by our side. We like knowing we aren't gonna die in seclusion. But how true is our knowledge? Is it just a delusion? Will the friends always be there by our sides, come what may? John Franklin once said: "When you are at the top, your friends recognize you. When you're at the bottom you recognize your friends" So how true are our assumptions? How many, if any, of our friends will come through in the darkest of times?
Hazrat Ali (R.A) once said:
"Your friends are tested on three occasions:
1. Behind your back
2. In times of difficulty
3. After your death"
I have designed an elaborate procedure to help filter your friends. Follow the five-step process below and find out the actual number of 'Friends' you have:
Let's pick a relatively large number to start with, a broad category; your Facebook friends. Needless to explain, we all know the story there. The title of that category shouldn't even be 'Acquaintances', considering the contents. The contents list not only the people we've never met but also those who don't even exist; fake profiles etc. Anyhoo, don't bother now. Just take the whole number to start with.
Step 1:
Now that you have total number, we'll be gradually applying different 'filters'. The first step is to take away all the fake people; Frozen Cat, Hot Dog, Dip Shit, Black Smoke, Serial Killer, Psycho Bitch, Crazy Motherfucker... and all such crap. Cross em all out and note the remainder. Next step.
Step 2:
Now chop off the 'extras', take out acquaintances, mutual friends and forced friends. The people you've only met along the way, the co-workers you only smile at by the coffee machine, the bosses and teachers on whose jokes you laugh too hard, the relatives you've added just to keep them from complaining, the random classmates you've added just for the sake of being classmates, the third-party friends like C, who is a friend because he is a friend of B, who is the actual friend.. and everybody else you have a formal rekationship with. Dump em all! Note the remaining number and next step>>
Step 3:
Now the third step involves gunning all the opposite gender friends. You hesitate I see!! Many people believe opposite sexes can be good friends. Well, unfortunately for you, I don't! I believe the motives behind such a relationship are not exactly pure, not strictly 'friendly'. You might as well be Gandhi, but you Will slip, that's a given! I don't expect you to share my beliefs, but since its my Goddamn process, kindly cross em out! Note the remainder.
Step 4:
By the fourth step the major filters have been applied. What you're left with is close friends; the ones you hangout with, laugh with & share secrets with and all that bullshit. The list is pretty thin already but we are far from over! Now its time to remove the mean bastards. The ones who've turned down favors. Who were never there in need. Who were there to laugh but never to cry. Carefully think, the picture will clear itself as you consider the facts. These are the ones who spent time with you for their own sake. Ditch them in a heartbeat! Note the remainder. Moving on>>>
Step 5:
And now the final filter to apply is the 'Filter of Blindness'. Who among the list will trust you against his better judgment. Who will follow you into war. Who is ready to sacrifice personal interests for the relationship. Who weighs your worth equal to his own. Take the friends that match this criteria and throw them out. They gotta get real. Just kidding, these are the 'ones', bag em, throw the others off the boat. These are the friends that will stick. The ones that matter. That will carry you aloft. That will help you fight the world and then beat the world! Cherish these friends, keep em close. In fact, you don't even have to worry these guys aren't goin anywhere. So now you have the final number, Ta-DA!
Pretty small number ain't it? Well that's the reality of this cold world. But that's doesn't mean all the others are worthless. The test just proved a point. The ones you were left with after step 4 will also do just fine, considering the harsh times we live in good ones are short in supply. Hell having any one friend is a blessing. Just know the limits of each friendship. Ask for more and your hopes shall shatter! Just keep an open heart, invite everyone in. Just don't expect much and hope never comes a time that tests your friends. You might not like what you find out.
Something you yourself wouldn't do for others, don't expect from others too. Be a loyal friend yourself and loyalty you shall find in your friends!
P.s. If you were left with a very small number. Its also possible the problem lies with you. Maybe you are a mean bastard yourself. A sick emotionless creep who doesn't deserve friends at all. Just a possibility.
Back in the day friendship was more, more than even a blood relation. It was a bond bound by life and death. It was sacred. Nowadays its become a comedy. The definition of the term has mutated over ages. Today its interpreted as sharing time and a few laughs. I.E. Merely spending time together equals the modern friendship. Whatever happened to relying, confiding and trusting? Though a complete friendship involves all the 'fun stuff' too. Its not what forms the basis, the pillars of a true friendship. In fact its always the non-stuff that differentiates between the two. That puts the relation to a test.
Funny thing is most of us are either naive to the thought or unaware of it. We believe we have lots of friends. Plenty of BFFs. Quite a number of die-hard amigos. We take pride in the number of friendships we possess. And ofcorse why wouldn't we? We like knowing we have a good influence on a great number of people, we like knowing we have like-minded individuals by our side. We like knowing we aren't gonna die in seclusion. But how true is our knowledge? Is it just a delusion? Will the friends always be there by our sides, come what may? John Franklin once said: "When you are at the top, your friends recognize you. When you're at the bottom you recognize your friends" So how true are our assumptions? How many, if any, of our friends will come through in the darkest of times?
Hazrat Ali (R.A) once said:
"Your friends are tested on three occasions:
1. Behind your back
2. In times of difficulty
3. After your death"
I have designed an elaborate procedure to help filter your friends. Follow the five-step process below and find out the actual number of 'Friends' you have:
Let's pick a relatively large number to start with, a broad category; your Facebook friends. Needless to explain, we all know the story there. The title of that category shouldn't even be 'Acquaintances', considering the contents. The contents list not only the people we've never met but also those who don't even exist; fake profiles etc. Anyhoo, don't bother now. Just take the whole number to start with.
Step 1:
Now that you have total number, we'll be gradually applying different 'filters'. The first step is to take away all the fake people; Frozen Cat, Hot Dog, Dip Shit, Black Smoke, Serial Killer, Psycho Bitch, Crazy Motherfucker... and all such crap. Cross em all out and note the remainder. Next step.
Step 2:
Now chop off the 'extras', take out acquaintances, mutual friends and forced friends. The people you've only met along the way, the co-workers you only smile at by the coffee machine, the bosses and teachers on whose jokes you laugh too hard, the relatives you've added just to keep them from complaining, the random classmates you've added just for the sake of being classmates, the third-party friends like C, who is a friend because he is a friend of B, who is the actual friend.. and everybody else you have a formal rekationship with. Dump em all! Note the remaining number and next step>>
Step 3:
Now the third step involves gunning all the opposite gender friends. You hesitate I see!! Many people believe opposite sexes can be good friends. Well, unfortunately for you, I don't! I believe the motives behind such a relationship are not exactly pure, not strictly 'friendly'. You might as well be Gandhi, but you Will slip, that's a given! I don't expect you to share my beliefs, but since its my Goddamn process, kindly cross em out! Note the remainder.
Step 4:
By the fourth step the major filters have been applied. What you're left with is close friends; the ones you hangout with, laugh with & share secrets with and all that bullshit. The list is pretty thin already but we are far from over! Now its time to remove the mean bastards. The ones who've turned down favors. Who were never there in need. Who were there to laugh but never to cry. Carefully think, the picture will clear itself as you consider the facts. These are the ones who spent time with you for their own sake. Ditch them in a heartbeat! Note the remainder. Moving on>>>
Step 5:
And now the final filter to apply is the 'Filter of Blindness'. Who among the list will trust you against his better judgment. Who will follow you into war. Who is ready to sacrifice personal interests for the relationship. Who weighs your worth equal to his own. Take the friends that match this criteria and throw them out. They gotta get real. Just kidding, these are the 'ones', bag em, throw the others off the boat. These are the friends that will stick. The ones that matter. That will carry you aloft. That will help you fight the world and then beat the world! Cherish these friends, keep em close. In fact, you don't even have to worry these guys aren't goin anywhere. So now you have the final number, Ta-DA!
Pretty small number ain't it? Well that's the reality of this cold world. But that's doesn't mean all the others are worthless. The test just proved a point. The ones you were left with after step 4 will also do just fine, considering the harsh times we live in good ones are short in supply. Hell having any one friend is a blessing. Just know the limits of each friendship. Ask for more and your hopes shall shatter! Just keep an open heart, invite everyone in. Just don't expect much and hope never comes a time that tests your friends. You might not like what you find out.
Something you yourself wouldn't do for others, don't expect from others too. Be a loyal friend yourself and loyalty you shall find in your friends!
P.s. If you were left with a very small number. Its also possible the problem lies with you. Maybe you are a mean bastard yourself. A sick emotionless creep who doesn't deserve friends at all. Just a possibility.
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